10 Things I've Learned About Pregnancy
Now that the cat is out of the bag!
It is time to get deep and personal about the realities of pregnancy. Pregnancy is different for everyone, so not one experience is the same as another. Some might have easy pregnancies, some might not even know there pregnant due to their lack of symptoms, while others might feel every symptom in the book from morning sickness to nausea to back pain, you name it.
One thing I have learned throughout this pregnancy journey is that although pregnancy is a gift, it is one gift that reminds you that life is out of our control. We can only control certain aspects of life like choosing our college majors, choosing which jobs to apply for, choosing who to marry, etc. But the there are multiple things out of your control, like when we die, if we will ever carry a child, or if we get that dream job that we have been praying for.
It’s all a big gamble, because you don’t know. All you can do is TRUST that GOD would never put you in a. situation that you couldn’t handle, overcome, or get through.
In this post today, I’ll be telling you the 10 Things I’ve Learned About Pregnancy.
Pregnancy is NOT one size fits all - It is easy to compare our pregnancy journey to others without knowing the complexity of pregnancy. If you have never been pregnant, you don’t know how your body will take it, and what that journey will look like for you. And you never know the true extent of people’s pregnancies. All you can do is infer based on what they choose to share.
Pregnancy is a gift that keeps on giving - From nausea to morning sickness to back pain, you name it. Pregnancy is one heck of a ride, some days you feel on top of the world, and others you just want to sleep the day away. And while it is comforting to talk to other pregnant people or people who were pregnant, it still feels like going through it alone. Even with supporting family members and spouse.
Your body is Not Yours - Yes, the body you have is now the body that holds and protects your precious child. You no longer are making decisions based on your regular body needs but the baby needs. It’s more like a sneak preview of what the rest of your life is going to look like.
If you can get through Pregnancy, what else can stand in your way? - Honestly, your like a superhero, or a superhuman being because who else is able to grow organs, complete daily tasks, and then at the end of it, push it out of the smallest hole possible, experiencing immense pain, and survive? you know who? YOU. Women. We are amazing, and there’s nothing we can’t accomplish.
Unsolicited Advice STARTS Now - From people projecting their own opinions/childhood traumas onto you to people telling you the best way to raise your kid. It’s an ongoing predicament that will follow you until the ends of earth. While some advice is helpful and warranted, others not so much.
The BEST Sleeps Ends the moment you reach the 3rd trimester - At least that’s what happen to me, the moment that belly grows, the less sleep you have. It’s literally training you for when the baby get’s here. And the CRAZY thing is, I have the best naps during the day. And if we know anything about newborns, they sleep during the day and are up during the night. Why is that? I don’t even know. If you do, let me know in the comments.
Pregnancy Before Marriage is still a CRAZY concept - People are so hung up on unwed mothers, and those opinions can either tear you down or make you feel less than. But hey, most babies born on earth are out of wed lock, and not saying this is necessarily a good thing. It’s just common, so don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s like people criticize you for being unwed but then will condemn you for getting an abortion. Like be realistic. Every baby is a gift. Choose the best plan for your family. No judgement zone here.
Missing Your Pre-Pregnant Life is Real - I miss going out with friends, drinking a mimosa, and shaking my tail feather to some Meg, but I don’t regret getting pregnant. I know I’ll make more amazing memories and there is going to be a time where I’ll miss being pregnant or miss having my little newborn. Don’t get sucked into glamorizing your past life, you still have more life to live. TRUST me.
Overwhelming Feelings - How am I going to be as a mom? How is it going to affect my marriage? my friendships? These are the thoughts that run through my mind all the time. I don’t want to be the mom who looses herself in her children, where she no longer has her own life. I want to still go out on date nights with my man, girl trips with my friends, and create content for my personal platforms. I still want to be ME. And I pray that I am able to be that. And I hope I have people in my corner that hold me accountable to that.
Money is a THING - Yes, you can have a baby at any income level but do you really want to? That’s the question. If I didn’t have a full time career or wasn’t in a committed relationship or had family help. I probably wouldn’t have jumped to have kids. And even now, I am in debt and hope to pay that off in a year. Would it have been nice if I waited till I was debt free to have a child? Yes. But at the end of the day, life happens. I wanted to start our family now. But for anyone else who would prefer to be in a better financial situation before having kids. WAIT. Save, Make More Money, Set Aside a Baby Fund, and then START. But for those like me, who didn’t you can still make it work. It might be harder, but you can still do it.
These are the top 10 ten things I learned about pregnancy from the past couple of months. If you have any more to add, please jot them down in the comments below. I would love to know.
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