3 weeks.

It’s been three weeks since I popped out baby boy, and boy is that crazy to say?!

I am a whole mother.

Tasha, a mother?

Crazy.

All I can say is that these past couple of weeks have been the best three weeks of my life. I have literally been in awe of the human my husband and I created. He is such a smiley expressive little thang, with the cutest little cheeks. Obsessed is an understatement.

While being a mother to baby boy has been a fun experience, the recovery process has not. To catch you up, I was originally scheduled to be induced for a vaginal birth on the 17th, but after 24 hours of labor and baby boy’s heart rate unexpectedly dropping, we opted for a c-section. While I wasn’t thrilled to be receiving a c-section, all I could think about was baby boy. And any way that required him to enter the world safely was all that mattered.

But boy, is the recovery process hard. I am so thankful for my husband who was with me 24/7 helping me to go to the bathroom, get dressed, walk, etc. Because ya girl was out of it. I thought me and my husband were close, we sure became closer during this process, but honestly it was nice. it was nice having someone there to help and provide a judge-free shoulder to cry on.

Yes, I cried a lot, during labor, during birth, and during after birth. I was an emotional wreck, and the worst part is that I couldn’t provide much assistance with the baby after he was born. So my husband was doing everything for the first couple of days, and boy did I feel worthless.

I know, I was in recovery, but if you know me personally, then you know how much I was looking forward to baby boy’s arrival, and to know that the first couple of days I couldn’t do much with him or for him, sucked.

What I can say, is that when you’re recovering, the nurses will tell you to walk, and honestly, after surgery, the last thing you want to do is walk. But GET UP and WALK. It will make it 10x better. Because I literally had the worst sleep of my life in the hospital because ya girl did not walk enough. And the pain was attributed to gas, and bowel problems. I literally did not poop for 6 days, 6 days, ya’ll.

I would wake up shaking, or sweaty, either or sucked. And that first shower, I was so nervous, but after I felt so amazing. I literally didn’t start feeling like myself till a week after surgery, so give yourself time. REST, and Walk as much as you can, because you literally just birthed a human, why stress yourself and your body out? Your body will recover and you will get back to normal. TRUST me.

Even though I don’t feel a 100% myself, I do feel WAYYY better than I did three weeks ago. And that’s progress in itself.

Here are some tips I have for recovering moms

Diapers are your friends - Honestly I prefer diapers over mesh underwear any day, they’re so much more comfortable and come with a built in pad. I literally will be buying them the next time I give birth.
Have a PostPartum Stash - I literally have my diapers, and my post partum essentials within arms reach of the toilet. Do that. Make it easier for yourself.
Belly Band - Ask for it. Don’t leave the hospital without it. I did. And had to order my own at Target
Find a routine, Stick to it - Babies are not as hard as people make them out to seem. Find a routine that works for your family and stick to it. The nights will be hard at first but your body will adjust, trust me
Be Proactive - I literally pre-make his bottles for the night and day-time feeds, do anything you feel will make the process go smoother. I am the queen of restocking, so I will restock the diaper caddy for the nights, so It will be easier when we wake up for our shifts.
Shifts are a lifesaver - Yes, if you have a partner, or someone helping you out. Do it in shifts. You will get some decent rests and so will they.
Maternity leave - Use it wisely, it goes by fast. Give yourself time to relax and rest and then get back to it.
Pain pills - Try to wean off them, don’t depend too much on them, because eventually you want your body to not need them. I literally stopped taking my heavy pain pills after two weeks. And my stool softener after I started pooping regularly.
Vent - The best advice I can give you is to talk your emotions out to the people who you trust and care about you, because keeping it bottled up, doesn’t help you or the baby.

If you have any additional tips or advice please leave them in the comments below.

Although, recovery sucks, it’s so worth it. I don’t regret having my little boy and I am so excited for the new year to see him change, and grow into the boy God has called him to be. I am so lucky. So if you’re in the thick of recovery, just know it will end soon. And if you’re about to give birth, just focus on your newest arrival. The hard stuff will come and go. But these moments will last forever.

Thank you for everyone who has continued to support my blog. I am so thankful for you and I hope you continue to join me in this new chapter. I will do my best to not make this into a mommy blog, but If I do, please cut me some slack. I am just obsessed with this new role.

I love each and everyone of you.

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